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How to Keep a Big Secret from Your Spouse: You Joined Ashley Madison

You just signed up for Ashley Madison. Unfortunately, there’s one big problem: How do you keep it a secret from your spouse? Obviously, if they discover that you joined one of the world’s most notorious “cheating” sites, that could spell serious trouble for you. 

However, if you use a little common sense and a lot of precautions, your spouse likely won’t find out that you are one of the millions of Ashley Madison members.

Complete your registration with fake information

When you sign up for Ashley Madison, make sure that you fill out your account with fake information:

• A different name

• A different city

• Even a different age

Furthermore, you shouldn’t register your account using your regular email address. Therefore, go ahead and create a new email address — using fake information — to register your account. That way your identity won’t be connected to your email address should it ever get exposed online.

Also, don’t include any personally identifiable details in your profile just in case someone could use them to figure out who you really are. Make sure you create a really difficult password to keep others from potentially gaining access to your account.

Take extra steps to conceal your profile and activities

Fortunately for members who are married or in long-term relationships, Ashley Madison makes it easier to keep your online activities discreet.

For example, the site offers users the option to blur their photos to help hide their identity. You can also place a digital mask over your face in photos.

If you share a computer with your spouse, you are taking a big risk. However, you can cover your online tracks by deleting your browsing history and cookies after visiting the site. If you download the app, make sure that your spouse won’t be able to access your phone and find it. 

Another way to help hide your browsing activity on Ashley Madison is to use a secured VPN (virtual private network) connection when you browse the site. That way your activity won’t be traced back to your IP address.

Keep your payments discreet

Finally, if you are a man, you will have to pay for a subscription to use all of the features on Ashley Madison — like being able to send and view messages. Even though the company keeps your billing and payment information discreet, your spouse might get suspicious if they notice a mysterious charge on your bank or credit card statement every month.

Therefore, you might need to do something like take out a prepaid debit card that you can use to pay for your subscription without your spouse finding out about it.


In short, the first step in keeping your spouse from finding out about your Ashley Madison account is to sign up using fake information. Secondly, make sure that they can’t stumble upon your browsing activity. Also, you might need to find a secret way to pay for your membership if you and your spouse have joint bank accounts and credit cards.

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